Muslim Wedding Vows Comments

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figures
Name: p oneill	2005-07-17
what a bunch of crap

Just my opinion
Name: Duaa	2005-08-16
I'm not so sure about the word "obedient" remaining in the vow. Respectful is a better word.

My opinion on the vows
Name: Graine	2005-11-30
I think these vows are very sexist and it makes the bride sound more like a dog rather than a women. The bride seems to be commiting herself a lot more than the man does and the way the bride says "obedient" and the man says "helpful" completely backs up the way men and women are stereotyped.

vows for crazy people
Name: Fergal	2005-12-28
these people should convert to Paganism, they would have a kinder version of God if they did and wouldnt be so nasty and hurtful. A muslim wedding? Id rather eat glass

just my 2cents
Name: becca	2006-01-15
yea thats exactly as i was thinking. i do not like this vow. it sounds like it makes the man in complete control, and the woman has to follow everything he says, or tells her to do. an obedient wife. sometimes theres a line, and this vow has no lines. respecting each other is more like it. this is all i gotta say abt this.. so called "vow"

comments
Name: G T H	2006-02-08
islam is a divine religion, all u snooty opinionated idiots should shove ur bloody opinions up ur ass.

MY VIEW
Name: LadyInDemaNd	2006-06-25
well u bunch of people just dunnoe wat muslim wedding is all about... this vow is not sexist at all. the man is in charge of the family and we as a wife has to respect that. if u tink its a crap,than just get lost and may u rot in hell..

who wrote this
Name: junior	2006-07-10
This is all made up... there are no such vows in a muslim wedding ceremony..

...
Name: echo	2006-07-17
there's really no such wedding vow in a muslim wedding ceremony. and for those people don't comment on something which you really doesn't know anything about.

And...
Name: mr punch	2007-09-05
...What exactly? What gives you the right to pass judgment on these vows? For a start, a lot of the traditional Christian ones are the same ('To love, honour and obey' anyone?). For another thing, sure it's stereotypical but unfortunately that's the way some people like it. But hey! You don't like it, here's an idea: don't use it!

um..
Name: michelle	2006-12-10
these vows are terrible

Hmm...
Name: Mad Cow	2007-08-30
I guess we can truly judge a society by how they treat their women. Earth has a long way to go...

Make qulaified statements

Name: Noor

2007-02-20

In the Current climate Islam is synoymus with extremism. This is very sad. There are extremists in every faith. they just don't get the attention of the media.
what is sadder is People actually beleive the negativity that they are fed and make unqulified statements such as these on this site.

Junior and echo are correct in that there are no muslim vows.

The ceremnoy consists of prayers and the bride is asked 3 time if she wants to marry the groom. to make certain that she is a willing participant and that she really does want to get married.

There are arranged marriages in the w

Please for the sake of humanity, please qulaify your staments before making ones that will inflame and create more hatred in the world.

The vows
Name: E.T.	2007-03-01
These vows made the man sound in control! I don't like that. I think when you get married both people should have a fair say in everything that is going on. If I were getting married these vows would not be on my list.

Respect each other

Name: Anosha Syeda

2007-03-01

In the Muslim religion the man is in charge of the family, where as in Christian family things are generally run by the two, TOGETHER, as one. There is not equality for man and woman in the Muslim faith. It is clearly reflected with these vows. (whether there are vows in a Muslim marriage or not)Also, I think it is extremely immature to condemn people to hell and throw out insults, over something as silly as this. Please people, try to respect each others opinions.

think before you comment
Name: i respect	2007-08-21
to those who give comments be respectful. if you have nothing beneficial to say just keep your hands off the keyboard. never insult other people's religion or culture. you think you're so good?

.........
Name: ........	2007-03-27
figure is an asshole!

Lovely
Name: Bridget	2007-04-05
These vows are showing what marriage was built on and what it should still be.

Learn from us

Name: Ronnyooo

2007-04-09

You people speak of which you know nothing. A muslim husban can loves his wife, the mother of his sons. It her responsibility to provide sons, if she not fulfil that responsibility, she not worthy of marriage and deceived husban! Were she to do so, she is dog, Holy Quar‘an and the Holy Prophet condemn her. You cannot understand because you not Muslim, we can love our dog, wife, truck, but no where are we commanded to love anything in Holy Quar‘an!

ahah
Name: aahah	2007-04-16
hahahahah this is funny sullai (aka muslims) make the wife say all thi siht while the guy says "ok ok ill do same' hahaah

judge not the action but intent

Name: mere

2007-04-24

I believe in order to understand a certain something you need to learn much more about it. I have study many religions and it is islam that women get the most respect for what they do..Islam is away of life rather than a religion..both man and women are treated of equal..So before judging this subject or anything in life ask yourself how much do you really know and how much do you choose to base your opinion on.....In conclusion i understand how this may be mistaken as being stereotypical or biased when indeed its not... Have a fantastic day...

This is my opinion
Name: Layaly	2007-04-26
please no one of us Muslims said anything about your wedding vows although that after a while u forget this vows and start to disrespect your other half .. its not a crap and its for sure not a sexist

screw you
Name: playe hater	2007-04-27
u dicks are a buch of shit heads

This vows is GREAT
Name: JimBob	2007-08-09
This vows is GREAT! Women SHOULD obey! Also, that bitch better pop out some sons!

Not Current
Name: Nour	2007-08-08
I am a Muslim, married, woman and this is not the vow I made. My husband and I said the same vow, the same length and obdiance was not part of it.

not the true faith

Name: David

2007-05-27

I have heard many Muslims make many statements about their religion, but not one of them has ever come forward to prove that theirs is the true faith. Is there a Muslim anywhere who is willing to step forward and actually prove that Islam is the real faith? Where is the historical accuracy? Where is the concrete evidence? Religion is not just about what you want to believe in, it is about what's true and what's not true. Can anyone please step forward, at the risk of denouncing his or her faith in public, and actually prove Islam to be true? I didn't think so.

The height of bigotry

Name: GJR

2007-06-04

Firstly, there is no such thing as a muslim wedding vow and the comments posted on this site are extremely rude - clearly only because they are written by ignorant bigots.

Secondly, Islam was the first religion to give rights to women and affords them great respect.

Thirdly, should you want proof that Islam is the true religion, than read up on it and educate yourself. God has provided all the information to aid in searching for the truth. Instead of remaining ignorant and intolerant, why not try a little respect for the unknown and educate yourself - if nothing else you may become a slightly better person for it.

Wow
Name: Barbara	2007-06-07
Under Sharia law a husband can divorce his wife simply by telling her, "you are divorced," three times, while women seeking separation must navigate a multitude of legal hurdles that usually take two years to complete.

obediant
Name: Richard Marley	2007-06-08
i dont think the wife should be obidient; i am fully respectful of my wife rosie in our marrige. i even help her with the washing up...lol!!

WHY
Name: HELLLO	2007-06-13
WTS DA POINT???

Where is the middle
Name: Wow	2007-06-10
As noted in a comment above, we look on Islam as an extreme relegion..... so, if you are not, then were is the voice of reason from your relegious leaders, where were they after 9-11, where are they now in East Asia as Muslims behead Indue..... the list goes on....

This is why their is war

Name: Mariam

2007-06-22

The ignorance that is out there.

So everyone hates muslims now?

Please Don't bring up 9-11 because if you really want to talk about that you should ask your own government. I'm sure they have some answers and probably a blue print of it all!

Why can't people just be respectful of other peoples beliefs?

Everyone has their own Culture and own way of life.
DEAL WITH IT!

alot of woman do it, They let the man be the man and be HEAD of the House... that is being an obidient wife. Making sure Dinner is cooked and kids taken care of, laundry and dishes are done!

A LOT of White Bread American women do it! Alot of woman want their man satisfied...

isnt that considered Obidient?

my opinion
Name: Bonnie	2007-06-24
what a joke, I feel sorry for those women

my opinion
Name: Bonnie	2007-06-24
oh yeah.. just one more reason to be glad Im a lesbian

Suicide
Name: Bubba	2007-06-24
No wonder they blow themselves up... It's the holy Quar'an that sucks the holy profit out of their miserable existance. It's easily fixed with a quick trip to America to see what civilization can be, the good and the bad. Civilized nations don't kill for religeon... that's why it rhymes with "pigeon."

to GJR
Name: Voskat	2007-07-12
"Islam was the first religion to give rights to women and affords them great respect." I guess that´s why I see all Islamic women covered up from head to toe, while the men go about in supertight t-shirts and gold chains.

to Mariam
Name: Voskat	2007-07-12
"Everyone has their own Culture and own way of life. DEAL WITH IT!" Yeah, let them suppress and abuse women all they like. It´s their way of life after all. By "DEAL WITH IT", I assume you mean: The next time you see the victims, just turn off your television and pretend it´s not happening.

Ignorant
Name: Voskat	2007-07-12
Women and men are NOT equal in the Quran. Read the book before you claim that you´re a Muslim.

non- racist opinion
Name: winnie	2008-01-02
yes, indeed....this makes no sense: he promises to be a faithful and helpful husband! what a crime! get over your racism people

its not your culture
Name: erin	2007-09-18
it's not mine either, but don't be stupid, if you aren't muslim, it has nothing to do with you

Hypocrites
Name: Matt	2007-10-14
Funny that no one made the same objection to the sexist Christian vows.

muslim
Name: muslim	2007-10-15
i am muslim and this is not true!

Ignorance
Name: Shazad	2007-10-19
I think Graine, you need to research a little more before you make ignorant comments. Women in islam have more rights over thier husbands than in any other religion and to be honest what do you know about committment anyway..

dfghdfh
Name: fghdg	2007-10-19
muslim's r gayyyyy!!!!!!

If you dont like it
Name: Cvnt	2008-01-12
Don't use it at your f*cking wedding!

sad
Name: buff bride	2008-02-01
yes Mr Muslim man,remember to be "helpful"...a womans role in life is NOT to do everything for YOU!!!!

WHAT
Name: Nassim Paruk	2008-02-11
Where did you get this crap? It has nothing to do with being muslim or islam.

this is for P Oneill

Name: aaaaaa

2008-02-25

that's what you call "being prejudice". staright away assuming that the vows is trying to put down the women. why do people always look at us and judge us like as if Islam has taught all the men to treat their wives very badly??? you can find other men with different nationality, different background and religion whom treat their wives unfairly. you've got to realise that religion was never there to teach bad, its the people. so next time before anyone says anything negative about certain things, do your research initially so you know what you're saying and you can stop your mouth from talking sh*t.

Meh
Name: Sam Mort	2008-02-26
Its all right i spose, i agree its sexist i rate it 1

hmmm
Name: vron	2008-02-29
thats interesting how the woman's vows are much longer the the man's. hmmmm.....

wow
Name: Lid	2008-03-18
who ever posted this as muslim wedding vows should do their research before they post wrong information. These are NOT muslim vows and for the people (such as above) who believe this to be true is STUPID! Learn and educate yourself before you start to JUDGE!

baloney
Name: muhammed	2008-03-20
Pigs. These vows are for pigs. I like bacon, mmmm. Apt for one pig marrying another swine.

so true
Name: Katikinz	2008-03-31
I also believe this is very sexist. I mean, whats up with the whole ovedient thing.

Never heard of this one

Name: Roslan

2008-04-16

I apologise but I find a need to clarify. I'm a Musllim and there are no specific vows. What happens is that the solemniser will seek permission from the woman whether she wishes to be married to the man. Only when her consent is obtained can the marriage take place. This is the true Muslim practice. Even if a marriage is arranged, the decision is still up to the woman.
The vow above appears be a tribal or community-based. What I did vow to my wife was to honor her, protect her and entrust her with my love and property. On her part, she promised to honor me, be my confidant and share our lives as one.

no kidding

Name: Carolinalady

2008-04-21

In a religion where the women are forced to wear clothing that covers them completely from ever feeling the warmth of the sun on their skin, where women are abused in the name of "the holy prophet", and men are permitted to cheat on their wives, not to mention the female circumcison that makes it physically impossible for the female to enjoy sex, is it really all that suprising that it would sound like they wre trading dogs? Yes, their religion is sexist... men do what ever you want with out consequences, women, on the other hand, step out of line and you will pay for it. Yes, again, the woman commits a lot more in a muslim marriage than the man... he gets to live to his hearts contentment and she gets the pleasure (*hint of sarcasm*) with cleaning, cooking, rearing his children, have a horrible sex life with a man that probaly has multiple partners, and trying all of her life to make a lost man happy. And this, apparently, beautiful thing(*hint of sarcasm*), is the fastest growing religion in the world... in stead of the religion/ relationship with a savior, who loves you and laid down his life for you and your husband to do the same, without thinking. YOU CHOOSE.

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2008-05-09

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I feel sorry for the women

Name: Gloria

2008-05-14

Oh, sure - a Muslim woman attending her ARRANGED marriage gets asked three times if she really wants to get married, and she is able to say NO? To the same "man" who will kill her is she is raped? By his own relatives??? The father turns over his innocent daughter to some pig who treats her like crap for the rest of her life - she's got to stay covered from head to toe, she can't drive, work, wear makeup, have fun, laugh, be her own person or anything good. She must work like a dog, look like a dog and act like a beaten dog! I am so glad I was born in this country - I never would have made it under those rules! Yuk!!
I feel sorry for all those women - I don't care if they SAY they are happy, they don't know what it is to be happy or free, so until they have a taste of freedom and respect and true caring, they are miserable! Pray for them.

truth
Name: Eugene	2008-05-20
i think that everyone needs the lord Jesus. without Jesus blood that was most willingly shared we all can look forward to an eternity in darkness and brimstone. faith without works is dead. preach the gospel of the lord for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.

just a thought
Name: a muslim	2008-05-20
For those who are judgmental, and who believe in other religion please stop and think and remember: THE TEN COMMANDMENTS -- EXODUS 20:1- 17 9) "Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor."

Its translated incorrectly lol
Name: Fatima	2008-05-23
besides in christianity its honour and obey

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