Excerpt From "The Irrational Season"

Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling.

by Madeleine L'Engle


  • The risk of marriage

    Wow! What depth lies in this excerpt. A lot of truth...

    Lori 2008-01-22

  • Real and true

    L'Engle's words here ring real and true for me. It speaks to the transition of being in love to being married. Other have said it in other ways, but this phrase sits lightly on my heart.

    Jen 2004-06-29

Add a Comment

Want us to help you write your wedding vows? Click here!