Does the Episcopal Church have a format for renewing wedding vows. I did not find one in the Book of Common Prayer. My husband and I want to renew our vows on our 30th wedding anniversary.
Nancy Rose Foye-Cox
My wife and I have been together for 19 years. We’ve only been married for 7 years and have 4 beautiful sons. Our oldest is 21 years old and is not biologically mine. I’ve raised him without his biological Dads influence. My younger sons are biologically mine. We are a family that recently took a blow. My wife had been having an affair and ended up 5 months pregnant with another mans baby. As difficult this is for all of us this has become our reality. It has blindsided us and we are trying to get through this the best way we can. As I read the traditional wedding vows it is tough to think that those vows were broken and betrayal existed. Fighting for my family is what I’m committed to accomplish and I will as difficult as it is for myself and family. Knowing it’s no longer about me and all about my family somethings are worth the sacrifice.
How easily these word are said in the presence of God. How easily they are not followed by those who only repeat or say what they are told to say. This was my prayer to God and my soon to be wife. I committed myself to the true meaning of these words. Marriage is work, hard work. It takes the both of you to work at it together, I said together. Not one sided and no finger pointing unless it is to help or support the other. If you are going to say these words please mean them will every fiber of your being. If you cannot follow God then please do not get married.
The Husband and her Mother
Forsaking all others...
When you get married, be CERTAIN that you can do this. The woman I married (and 30 years later am still married to) simply cannot not. She has been faithful of course, but in her case her MOTHER is, has been and always will be the most important person in her life. While we have a good life together and 2 fine sons, it bothers me that if I say the sky is blue and her mother disagrees - I am wrong. If I told my wife I was taking her to Paris for two weeks for our anniversary - if her mother had a hair appointment anytime during that same two week period, we wouldn't go because "they" always go to the parlor together ... even though her DAD would be happy to take her Mother instead... and if her mother and I were both on fire and my wife had a bucket of water... bad news for me. That being said, don't get me wrong, her mother is great and all ... but I believe "we" should not be a "three"... and I cannot help but think that this type of thing would have driven a great many men (those who do not feel bound by vows made in the presence of the Lord) away. But as I swore my fealty to her before God in "his house" - I AM bound. So MAKE SURE YOU ARE ABLE TO COMMIT COMPLETELY ... or you may very well find that you will utterly fail in your marriage.
If only people took these vows to be vows. How wonderful that would be. When children get involved, and one does not hold these vows....well, say no more. I am warning every young girl out there to be sure that the one you think you shold marry has your best interest at heart from the start. Never think that you can change someone. My mother told me, and I did not listen. I am old now, and even though it has been a number of years the betrayal of these sacred vows will haunt you forever.
I think all the wedding so romanitc, I just can't wait ti get married...:)
I love those vows,they are so wonderful.
more of that...
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The 2nd line presently reads "to have an to hold from this day forward,". The third word should be and not an.
What can I say...
...I'm a cradle Episcopalian, and I love the vows in my church's current liturgy--the 1979 Book of Common Prayer. I must say, though, that the most beautiful and meaningful part for me is the exchange of rings (from the 1979 BCP):
I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow. And with all that I am and all that I have, I honor you, in the Name of God.